View of Germans in Germany, Response to a Response

I wrote a post earlier about my current view of Germany, which I decided it would be appropriate to respond in another post.The original post “My Current View On Germany”.

Hi admin,

I am studying in Germany and i feel pretty much the way your words sound. There is a little exp. which i wanna share and which would sum up my view on germans. I used to live in a hostel in Southern Bavaria. I made friends with lot of Germans, although it took a lil bit time. But one thing i always realised all along the way they were kind of superficial towards me. May be because, they knew i would leave the hostel after 6 months. I mean nobody involved in a real friendship with me. As the time moved on, i wud find myself not able to understand their discussions during dinners as they spoke german/bairish too fluent enough for me and din care even when they knew my lang. situation. They jus din care for me at all. If these were the best germans i met, you can imagine my exp. with the rest. Now, i have lots of foreign friends who are much more warm and care about me. They are spanish, mexican and some east europeans. Germans are a diff. race of europeans. Don’t need any german friend now.

My response:

Classifying everyone into one “race” such as German can borderline being racist.  As we know being a foreigner is not always easy.  We have to take extra steps to make friends. Imagine how people in your home country feel?  They often find themselves sticking to people from their own country.  Sometimes we just meet the wrong “Germans” which might give us the wrong impression.  We should all make our best effort to make any newcomers feel welcome, since they any newcomer will form an over impression of a place based on first impressions.

My advice?  There are good and bad people everywhere.  Simply try your hardest, meet foreigners and make yourself extra outgoing.  I will admit many Germans that I have encountered tend to be closed. But, don’t give up on them, find some activities that let them really get to know you.  In the worst case, maybe Germany isn’t the place for you.

You can’t expect a place to change for you, either accept it, or move on.